When your relationship is struggling, seeking professional help is one of the most powerful decisions you can make. But not all therapy is created equal—and in fact, choosing the wrong type of therapist can unintentionally cause more harm than healing. Many people assume that any licensed therapist can help with relationship issues, but that’s not the case. There is a significant difference between an individual therapist and a therapist trained to work with couples. Most individual therapists are skilled at working one-on-one, helping clients process trauma, manage emotions, and improve mental health. However, couples therapy requires an entirely different set of tools. A couples therapist is trained to view the relationship itself as the client, focusing on the dynamic between two people rather than just supporting each person individually. Without this specialized training, therapists may default to individual therapy techniques in joint sessions, which can lead to imbalance, misunderstandings, or even escalating conflict between partners.

Dr. Teralyn Sell, a licensed therapist in Wisconsin, is specially trained in the Gottman Method of couples therapy—a research-based approach that helps couples build stronger emotional connections, communicate effectively, and rebuild trust. The Gottman Method isn’t about talking in circles or endlessly revisiting the past; it’s about understanding patterns, learning practical tools, and working as a team to create a more connected, fulfilling relationship. This is essential because therapy that isn’t grounded in solid relationship science can leave couples feeling unheard, misrepresented, or stuck in toxic cycles. Individual therapists, even those with the best intentions, may inadvertently take sides or focus too much on one person’s perspective. That’s where training matters. A couples therapist like Dr. Teralyn brings a neutral, structured, and research-informed approach that addresses the emotional, psychological, and communication challenges unique to romantic partnerships.

Many couples wait too long to seek help, hoping things will improve on their own. But relationship strain is not just about fighting or distance—it’s about missed bids for connection, emotional disconnection, and unspoken resentment. When these go unaddressed by the right kind of therapist, things often worsen. In contrast, couples therapy done well is a safe and structured space where both partners can feel seen, heard, and supported. Dr. Teralyn’s Gottman training equips her with tools that are proven to work, from managing conflict without escalation to rekindling intimacy and rebuilding broken trust. Choosing a therapist who knows how to help both of you—not just one of you—can be the difference between drifting apart and finding your way back to each other.